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<\/p>\nIt all seems easy before birth. When the time comes, the baby will stay with a nanny\/grandma or go to preschool, and mom will go back to work. However, it\u2019s not so easy after the child is actually born. You hold that most precious human being in the world and you keep convincing yourself how much they need you. And the whole premise of returning to work becomes difficult to bear. How can we deal with that?<\/p>\n
When mom goes back to work, she must prepare the child, herself, and her family for a number of issues. Such as emotions (longing, fears, guilt), new daily and weekly routines, problems with the child falling asleep (a baby missing their mummy during the day may want to play with her at night), tiredness (although work may be actually less tiring than childcare, the mother has simply more things to do every day). Moreover, if the baby is breastfed, there is also the new rhythm of nursing to consider, expressing breastmilk, and the child\u2019s feeding times.<\/p>\n
Oh yes, return to work is a never-ending story. Let\u2019s have a look at a few selected problems.<\/p>\n
How am I going to leave them for so many hours?<\/p>\n
That\u2019s one emotionally charged question. What are you really afraid of? What\u2019s the real problem here?<\/p>\n
You\u2019ve decided to return to work. The decision was certainly thought out and calculated. You have a reason to work and you understand why it is important. Now you must do everything you can to make sure that the child is well taken care of and you can work in comfort.<\/p>\n
Children need to feel safe and it is your face that informs them if they are. If you\u2019re smiling, they are sure that everything is all right. But if they notice your anxiety, hidden fears, they empathize and feel the same. Calm yourself for the sake of your child, make yourself understand that they are all right when someone else is taking care of them instead of you. Of course, you\u2019re your baby\u2019s most important person in the world, but that does not mean there can\u2019t be other people in their life, who also take care of their needs. Perhaps they have a different way of doing so, but it\u2019s OK too. Better, even \u2013 it\u2019s good for the child when they learn new habits, games, rituals.<\/p>\n
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What if they forget about me?<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n They won\u2019t! They know and love your voice, scent, warm touch, and the relief they feel when you cuddle. Slowly, they\u2019ll learn that when you leave, disappear from their sight, you always return and that\u2019s when it\u2019s time for cuddling and closeness. There is a strong bond between you, and a few hours of separation won\u2019t harm it. Most importantly, when you return home, remain the well-known, beloved and\u2026 usual mom, who isn\u2019t trying to compensate for the \u201clost time\u201d with different activities and attractions. For a small child, just being together is the most important and the most valuable thing you can offer: reading books, playing at home, walks, cuddling.<\/p>\n If forgetting about a mom was so easy, psychologists would have nothing to do! I\u2019m joking, of course. A close, safe attachment to one\u2019s mother makes the foundation of what people think about themselves and the world. If there is no attachment, or the mother is interchangeably caring and distant (closed, anxious, impatient, and aggressive) \u2013 that\u2019s when problems may arise.<\/p>\n What if they are ill?<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n If a baby stays home with a nanny or grandma, it doesn\u2019t mean they\u2019re more prone to illness. Quite the contrary, it is you who should get tougher before you mix with the crowds on buses, streets, or at work. If you\u2019re still nursing, the baby will get in the milk a new portion of antibodies, ones against the very germs you are in contact with.<\/p>\n If the baby goes to a cr\u00e8che \u2013 they actually may get a bug from other children. Talk to your paediatrician about available vaccines. And prepare a backup plan for the situations when instead of the cr\u00e8che, you must go to a doctor.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n I feel guilty because\u2026 I dream about returning to work.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n Guilt seems to be a constant companion of all mothers. Like a shadow, it lurks behind and smothers the joys of motherhood. Moreover, usually nothing good comes out of it. When the mother feels guilty, when she\u2019s unhappy, that sadness often affects the child too. Mothers who feel bad as mothers become emotionally distant, nervous, touchy, becomes overly dedicated and angry. Children don\u2019t understand the reasons, they just sense that something bad is going on. They\u2019re anxious, and that constant fear affects their emotional development.<\/p>\n There is nothing wrong in the fact that a woman wants (not only \u201chas to\u201d) work, study, develop. It\u2019s a natural need. Besides, anyone who has spent months taking care of an infant, often without any help from family, realizes how numbing and exhausting it may be.<\/p>\n Motherhood is not a competition. You\u2019re not a better mother just because you\u2019re able to grit your teeth really hard. If you like your job \u2013 enjoy it. You\u2019ve given birth and you\u2019ll always be a mother. But you\u2019ve never stopped being a woman with her own dreams, passions, and talents.<\/p>\n It all seems easy before birth. When the time comes, the baby will stay with a nanny\/grandma or go to preschool, and mom will go back to work. However, it\u2019s not so easy after the child is actually born. You hold that most precious human being in the world and you keep convincing yourself how […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":871,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"","_seopress_titles_title":"","_seopress_titles_desc":"Return to work is a never-ending story. Let\u2019s have a look at a few selected problems. 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